As far as self help goes, I hate it. I hate to believe that I can’t figure things out on my own. I’d rather melt in a puddle of self pity before letting someone tell me how to think, how to feel and what to do. I mean, you don’t know me so don’t tell me how to be, dress, understand my tween or clean my effing house. Just sit your ass down.
But, the reality is that I totally need someone to tell me how to think, how to dress, how to understand my tween and how to clean. I do believe that, occasionally, we do need that push to get out of our brain funk, remove ourselves from our current situation and really take a look at our own selves from a different perspective.
The books that I’m sharing below are short, to the point and had a significant impact on my significant life transformation. They are 100% worth the short time it will take you to read them.
This book was a Christmas gift from my husband in 2016. I received this at the height of my insane period and read the damn thing in about two days. It’s a really great no-nonsense guide on how to give and not any fucks. I just reread it this past weekend and it still makes as much sense to me today as it did three plus years ago. Read it. Seriously, do yourself a favor and read it!
This book is not what you think. Alison Freer guides you through the steps to look your best, not by buying the best and most fashionable clothes, but by encouraging you to buy and wear clothes that flatter you best. This book was a great reminder that I need to get my butt back to the tailor to have my clothes hemmed and altered to ensure the best and most flattering fit for my body. As a 45 year old mom to two, I really started to fall into the ill fitting yoga pant wearing hot mess mom category, a category that I never EVER wanted to fall into. I can’t say I’m a fashion icon after reading the book, but I’m definitely more aware of the clothes I buy, the clothes I wear and finding a style that flatters my ever aging body.
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, by Marie Kondo
I mean, if you haven’t heard of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, where have you even been?? I bought this book in January 2016 and started the great purge shortly after. So much joyless stuff gone. We live in a house with almost zero storage space so the great purge was necessary for my mental survival. If you haven’t already KonMari’d your home, you should probably get started. There is no method more effective than this.
And, yes, I fold and store my clothes like she suggests in the book.
“Something’s not right. This is not right. Is this normal? This can’t be normal. I mean, there is something seriously wrong here. Right? There’s something wrong. You see it, right?”by, my husband
Those are the words my husband would mutter each and every day the minute after our little teeny tiny cutest ever baby girl entered tweenhood. I didn’t know which was worse, her being a tween or listening to my husband question every little tween thing that she did. So, like all good wives, I read a book to prove to my husband that “yes” this is in fact very normal, and “yes” you are, in fact, very wrong.
How to Hug a Porcupine is another short, sweet, book providing evidence that what we see from our tweens is in fact normal tween stuff. This book provided exactly what I needed to read at the very moment I read it. This is the perfect book to read before your daughter’s get to the Untangled phase of their lives.
You may say that not all of these books qualify as “self help”, but I will say that you are wrong. All of these books in some way helped myself and the words on the pages of those books still resonate with me today.
When it comes to self help reads, short and sweet is my motto and these books fit the bill. I hate when people tell me what to do so I when I preach a book, it means something (at least to me). Take a read. I hope you love them as much as I do.
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